Accepted a relationship is over in the heart but not the mind
I’ve been broken up with my ex for almost a year, and there hasn’t been a single day I don’t think about him. I’ve accepted it’s over, I know as much as we loved each other too many toxic things happened for us to continue. He has reached out a couple of times but I’ve kept it short and friendly. Anyway, even though I think I’m over him, why do I think of him daily?
How to stay consistent with self love
Since the year began, I was putting so much work at loving myself. Reading daily, going to the gym, yoga at home, reducing my vaping habits, journaling, eating healthier etc. However for the past two weeks I completely lost motivation for almost all of it, and I find it so hard to restart even though I loved how I felt. I have this overwhelming sensation of just.. being overwhelmed constantly. All I’ve managed to do is go to work and come home to lay in bed to watch Netflix. I’m constantly losing patience and find myself being a bit rude to others, and when I go to bed I rethink everything I’ve done wrong, and promise myself to be better the next day and it all just repeats.
Grieving my childhood
I’ve recently discussed with my therapist the need to grieve my childhood for all the trauma experienced, not having parents who loved me. I feel a lot of anger towards them and confusion about how I feel, I feel completely detached from “little me”. How can I start to take steps to “grieve”? It feels like all I’ve done is cry and talk about it and there’s only so much doing that can do.
How to let go of someone
I was seeing someone until late last year and it was going very well (lots of green flags) and then he ended things quite abruptly when he experienced a tragedy in his family - of course, completely understand, I wanted to be there for him but respect his choice to end things as from what I understood he couldn't emotionally cope with what has happening in his family and starting a new relationship. Its been a few months and I don't seem able to let him go in my mind - all my other past relationships it was a bit easier to let go as I could list off quite a few red flags but with him I am struggling as it was all green flags.
Emotionally (un)available ?
Hi Louise, I have been listening to your podcast for a while now and only recently subscribed to this! It has been sooo helpful and honestly brought so much insight into my patterns. I was in a 4 year (toxic) relationship because the both of us got together from a place of loneliness and had unhealed our wounds and attachment issues. It has been 8 months now out of it and I m ready to date again. However I seem to be only attracting emotionally unavailable men and kinda am starting to feel very frustrated or not able to trust the process as much anymore. I was wondering if you could give a guide perhaps how to 1. trust the journey more and 2. to become more emotionally available. I am not even sure if im unavailble but just in case there is a chance there is no harm in working on it right?