Dating my best friend but starting to have doubts
Hey everyone!! I need a bit of advice… I’m currently in a relationship with one of my best friends (we’ve been friends for 5 years) and have been dating since this past august. In the past we were friends with benefits (I caught feelings, he didn’t but we got over that and became very good friends). This past summer he realized he liked me and wanted to start something serious. I’d always hoped this would happen but at the time I had also come to terms with it was never going to happen and I had accepted that. But, my whole thing was that if he ever changed his mind that was it for me. Like he was the one etc. basically, we started dating and it’s been great since like healthiest relationship, great communication, all that jazz. BUT for some reason I just feel like something is missing. I’m thinking maybe we jumped into it too quick (I also have a fear of commitment so there’s that to unpack lol) or I’m just not ready to be like “yeah he’s the one I’m never going to date anyone else”. He thinks that I’m the one and is ready to move in etc but I’m certainly not there. I also feel like there’s passion missing. I don’t feel like I want to jump his bones all the time. It’s tough because we’ve talked about the future and are fairly deep in considering our history, but I’m heavily debating whether or not to stay with him because I just have a feeling that he’s not it for me anymore. Maybe for 20 year old me, but not today. I really don’t want to break his heart and we’ve met each others families and our two other best friends have been skeptical since the beginning. Overall I’m just not sure whether or not to stick with it or break up and go back to being single (I kind of miss it and I feel like you shouldn’t if you’re with your person??). Please help!
Do I want kids or not?
I am approaching 35 and I am on the fence about whether or not I would like to have children. I did a private fertility MOT back in 2019 and was told that everything appeared fine, but was advised that once you reach 35 your fertility begins to decline. My partner is younger than me and has expressed that he doesn’t want kids any time soon. When he told me this I told him it wasn’t a dealbreaker for me at this moment in time, but was honest and said my viewpoint on this may change in time. I’m genuinely confused about the topic as I don’t have strong feelings either way. I love my very independent life in the city and have built an amazing home, career, friendship group and romantic relationship. I know I would be happy with or without a child in my future, but I feel like my body needs me to make a decision either way. Do you have any advice on figuring out whether motherhood is right for me? I have decided I don’t want to freeze my eggs.
Getting back together with my ex
Me and my ex stopped seing each othee about 7 months ago (August). We had a ONS back in october but apart from that we didn‘t have contact. I can‘t forget him and I thought a lot about the relationship and realized even though we both made mistakes, a lot of it was my fault because I failed to communicate. And I worked a lot on myself since then. I wan‘t to restart things but how do I text him / how do I go about this.
Boyfriend has lots of female friends
How do I become more okay with my partner having lots of female friends? I know he isn't doing anything wrong but I still get wildly jealous and emotional every time they interact. He has been intimate with a few of them prior to our relationship, so I understand where the jealousy comes from there, but I still get as upset with the others. Being jealous and controlling is not in my nature, and I do know that it is a good sign that he has a lot of female friends, as it shows he does not only view women as sexual objects. But this has been a lot harder on me than I expected. How do I become more okay with this?