Healed?
Doing the work (thanks to you!), on a journey of self awareness and self reflection. Trying to heal my anxious attachment wounds and abandonment issues. My question is - how will I know when I’m “healed”?? Hear about healing a lot and doing the work, but what does it really mean to be healed? Thanks in advance for your insight 🤗
The girl before me
I would just like to say, I love your podcasts so much. They have made me realise I have an anxious attachment style and opened my eyes up to so many patterns in my dating life. There's a topic I'd really love to hear a podcast on and that's comparing yourself to the woman he chose over you. A couple of months ago, things ended with a guy who I dated for a few months. Whilst we were dating I couldn't help but feel he was still hung up on his ex that moved to a different country (bear in mind it had been over six months since the breakup when we started dating and they dated for a year). And when I brought it up with him he told me I had nothing to worry about, he would never get back with her, that she treated him really badly and none of his friends liked her. Now it is over I can't help but feel he was definitely hung up on her, and what did she have that I didn't? I keep going round and round in my mind about it. Is this something you ever felt and how to overcome it?
Help
I recently ended things with a man that everyone was telling me i should have ran a mile from. Why do I keep doubting myself and thinking did I jump the gun when he ended things with me 2 weeks previous telling me he didnt want a relationship then telling me he did. I know this wasnt right but why cant I stop thinking about him and want to go back there?
Mental health in relationships
I’ve been with my boyfriend for around a year now. When we first met he was in a good place. A few life events happened around the same time and he has spiralled into a deep depression, which the past few months has been super pronounced. I find it really hard to accept him as he is. I don’t want to leave him. I love him. But his inconsistent behaviour due to his mood is so triggering for me. It’s really affecting me. I don’t know how to better manage myself. I don’t know if I want to live with someone who is depressed in the way he is. I want to believe that he has the ability to learn to manage his depression and to become functional and functional in our relationship. But is that a huge ask to be depending on his mental state to change for me to be comfortable in the relationship. Other than his mental health, he is so loving so open. I can talk to him about anything. He is so supportive of me. He makes me laugh. He’s super affectionate, a family guy, everything I’m looking for. I don’t want to leave him, I feel awful that I’m considering leaving him at his lowest. But it’s hurting me the relationship we have now with his mental health and how we’re both managing it. I want to learn how to better manage my side.